Getting Laid Tactic #3: Be Selective (Don’t Email EVERY Hottie)
Before you get onto a dating site of any kind, stop and have a moment to calm down first. Yes, it can be really exciting to sign on for the first time and see how many girls there are. Yes, there’s the possibility that you could be sleeping with one of these girls in a matter of days, which is awesome (technology in general is pretty sweet).
A lot of guys on adult dating sites act like kids in candy stores at first, running around crazy and contacting every girl that looks like she’s going to maybe kind of possibly give you the time of day.
This is common, and it’s very understandable, especially if you’ve been in a rut recently. After all, they’re not going to date you if you don’t contact them, and there’s safety in numbers, so why not put all your eggs in different baskets right away?
This is not going to help you get laid.
If you’re on a legit adult personals site, you’re not going to have to act like this at any point in your dating career. You have the power to pick and choose which girls you want to go out with—and yes, that’s a good thing that you should totally do!
We know, we know, that sounds like really weird advice coming from a bunch of guys who have said that we send out around 500 emails during the course of our personals site comparisons, but don’t forget that we’re a group of five dudes, and it took us MONTHS to build up those numbers. We never sent out more than one per day on each site, maximum!
Limit your number to THREE.
If you’re spending way too much time on a dating site, you run a bunch of risks. First, you run the risk of getting frustrated that things aren’t moving fast enough, which is a total killjoy for any guy who wants to not hook up just once, but whenever he wants to.
Second, you run the risk of being that guy who’s super overeager on the dating website. If that’s you, stop right now. THAT is your problem with not getting women to go out with you. No one likes that.
Third, you’re not actually going to meet many more women that way—remember that new women are signing up all the time, and they’ll still be there tomorrow. Some of your best hookups haven’t gotten online yet!
If you limit your number to contact to three, you’re not going to run any of these risks.
Just find three (or fewer!) women that you want to contact, spend five minutes preparing an email for each of them, and send. If you’re on a really good dating site, you can expect to probably get emails to two of them…tomorrow. Don’t sit around and wait for them!
If you’re always online, you look needy. You want to create at least the illusion that you’re a busy guy with a lot to do, so you won’t give off the impression that you’re going to be sitting around trying to bother this girl all the time, which isn’t what she wants.
Girls like hookups just as much as guys do.
A lot of the mistakes that guys make stem from the fact that they think girls are only looking for long-term relationships, but that’s totally untrue. If girls weren’t interested in hooking up, they wouldn’t be on these sites!
If you’re on a good hookup site, you don’t have to worry about this kind of thing, and you don’t have to spend all your time on a hookup site just to get laid. If you’re not getting results in 10-30 minutes a day, you’re probably on a bad hookup site!
Instead of oversaturating, compare websites.
You should be able to keep a pretty good record of how you’re doing on each website you try. Yes, you should read our reviews before you sign up to a site, and it’s the easiest, most comprehensive way to make sure you’re not going to get ripped off.
But not every site works for every guy. You’ve got to make sure you’re actually having a good time and you’re getting results on whichever site you’re using, whether you’re using one site or five.
Create a method that gets YOU results.
We’ll show you all about our method, and the things we recommend for you to try—but in the end, if it’s not working for you as well as you want it to, see what does work! Send out 500 emails, and see how many girls email you back—and which messages they react most strongly to. That’s how to be selective—only use what you want most!