Getting Laid Tactic #8: The Date
Once you’ve been talking to a girl from one of our recommended adult personal sites for a while, it’s time to find out if you’re compatible in real time: it’s time to try out everything you’ve been wanting to do in 3-D and see if the real thing stands up to the hype. It’s time to take this woman on a date.
Not so fast.
There are a few things you have to plan out before you wind up actually taking her on a date in meatspace (offline, though that metaphor works pretty well for what usually happens with our dates).
First, get yourself physically ready.
Obviously, you need to shave, shower, and do all the other good stuff that means you’ll be good to go for the next several hours. Yes, several hours—unless you know for a fact that you’re just going to meet this woman for a quickie behind the Burger King, you want to be ready to go through at least a few hours, possibly a whole long night.
That means you should eat first! A lot of guys forget this part when they’re getting ready. Sometimes nerves make us less hungry, and sometimes we think it’s not important because we’ll just grab something later. We think it’s better to plan for the unexpected.
If you’ve eaten well before you leave, you’re in a much better position to rock her world all night long. You’ll also have enough energy to get through the night, and you won’t be the asshole who barely rolls over before he’s asking to go out for burritos.
Second, have a plan.
You should have a complete plan of what you plan on doing with this girl before you meet up with her.
You should know where you’re going to eat, where you’re going to go, and what you plan on doing with her once you’re there. Surprises are great, but you don’t want to be the one in for a bad surprise when you have all the time in the world to plan beforehand.
You should already know what you want to do with her.
If you’ve talked about sex with this girl (and you should have by the time you meet up in person!), you’ll already know some of your kinks and some of hers that you want to try out.
Plan on doing whichever the two of you are the most comfortable with, but you should also be prepared for the eventuality that she wants to do something else, as well. Being prepared beforehand can mean you’re much more likely to pull off an awesome hookup. That’s why it’s our biggest adult dating strategy.
This is why you should make sure to have items and equipment with you if you’re going to have a wild evening. Always, always, ALWAYS bring condoms, unless you’re not planning to put your dick in anything or anyone. Even if you believe that there’s not going to be a pregnancy, you can’t trust that a girl you met on an adult personals dating site is going to be totally free of diseases. Hell, she might not even know it, so you can’t say that she seems trustworthy.
Bottom line: if you’re disease-free and you want to stay that way, wrap it up. If you have something, wrap it up. If you’re ever sticking your dick in someone that you met on a dating site (or anywhere else), wrap it up. Hell, we don’t want anyone introducing gross illness into our pool of available dates, so we’re pretty strict about this one!
Third, get the place ready.
You want to end the night with a smile on your face, right?
Sorry, but that doesn’t just happen magically. The old thing about “So, my place or yours? …uhh, my place is kinda messy right now…oh, you have a roommate…”
That’s really college, and you don’t want to be dealing with that when you’re just looking to hook up. It’s important to find out where you’re going to end the night BEFORE you actually end the night. That means you know where you’re going, how you’re getting there, and hopefully, who’s paying for it.
(Sorry, bro, but unless she offers right away and enthusiastically, you’re paying for the hotel room. Don’t bitch about it, that makes you look cheap and totally immature.)
Make sure you get a nice hotel room, if that’s what you think the two of you are going to want. No, we don’t mean somewhere that rents by the hour and doesn’t have TOO many bedbugs (probably). We mean you should actually get a decent, mid-range or higher hotel room that looks like you actually invested something in this night.
If you can’t afford a good hotel room, re-budget. It’s worth it.