Getting Laid Tactic #5: The Three-Day Rule
So, we’ve already told you why it’s good not to spend too much time on a site at once in our guide to being selective. Now, we’re going to teach you one of the most often overlooked, most important rules you can follow on any adult personals site.
The three-day rule.
This might as well be known as the Golden Rule of dating, and we’re SURE you’ve heard of it…at least, in some form.
You’ve probably seen it on sitcoms, gotten advice from buddies about it, or heard about it from someone you’ve dated. The basic rule is that after you get a girl’s number, you have to wait three days to contact her.
This doesn’t just apply in one situation.
You can use the three-day rule for all kinds of things, and you should! For example, it’s important to not look like you’re super invested in sitting at the computer and waiting for a woman to email you. That makes you look really desperate, which is not the kind of message you want to send out to a girl you want to hook up with.
It can be a good idea in these situations to have a rule about when you can email her back. That means you won’t always be scrambling to return an email exactly when you get it, which means you come across looking more cool and put-together in the long run.
Three days should do the trick.
Yes, when a babe emails you, you’re going to have to wait for a little bit. We know, you’re worried that she’ll think you’re ignoring her, or that she’ll think you’re an asshole, or she’ll think you’re not interested, but we swear, that doesn’t really happen.
Instead, girls just don’t care. They don’t mind that they have to wait three days in order to hear from you, because that at least shows that you’re a person who doesn’t spend his whole life on dating sites, which girls consider a pretty lame thing to do.
They also know you’re real.
There’s a big problem with spam and scams on adult dating sites, and everyone knows that. WOMEN know that.
They get a LOT of spam from fake email addresses in the same way that you do, and they get sick of dealing with it. Girls want to make sure you’re a real guy, and this is a good way to do it!
The other upside is that you’ll be able avoid fake profiles, as well! If she’s a spambot, she will always email you back within a minute or so, longer if she’s on a site with slow load times.
If she’s an adult personals site scam, she’ll email you back multiple times within the same week, without exception. She’ll send you unsolicited emails and seem like she’s really interested, because she IS really interested—in making sure you and your money stay close and on the line.
Real girls won’t mind if you don’t email back right away.
Girls aren’t on these sites because they NEED to get laid right away. Look, we all know that it’s a lot easier for girls to get laid than it is for guys. Mostly, they could go home with any guy in a bar that they go into, whereas we strike out a lot in real life (though not online).
They’re on adult personals sites because they want a fun and stress-free way to get laid more often than they currently are, and that’s it. Don’t ruin that for them (or for other guys who want to sleep with them) by being a lunatic about whether they email you back right away.
Fewer emails can mean faster hookups.
That’s right—even though it might not seem like it, you can actually wind up getting laid MORE by emailing girls LESS!
Let’s break down this dating strategy: like we said, women want fun and stress-free hookups on these sites. When you’re sending out fun, no-pressure emails every few days, you’re sending out the message that you’re down to meet at some point.
Pretty soon, she’s going to start chomping at the bit. If she’s into you, she won’t want to wait three days for another response, so she’ll be WAY more into the idea of meeting you in person. You can go from meeting online to meeting in real life a lot faster than you could by emailing her every day!
You have to make sure you’re letting a dating site work for you. If you’re putting in a lot of work, you’re not letting the site do the work instead of you, and you’re going to stress and waste your time for no reason. Stick to three days.